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Highly happy people all share happy habits. It’s as simple as that. The happiest people I know share 7 very obvious habits. If you’re looking to expand your general happiness you may consider adopting these habits in your own life.
Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
-Abraham Lincoln
Be a Part of Something You Believe In – This could be anything. People may take an active role in their local city council, find refuge in religious faith, join a social club supporting causes they believe in, or find passion in their careers. In each case the physiological outcome is the same. They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in. This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives.
Share Time with Friends and Family – A happy life is a life shared with friends and family. The stronger the personal relationships are and the higher the frequency of interaction, the happier a person will be.
Reflect on the Good – Quite often people concentrate too much of their attention on negative outcomes and leave no time to positively reflect on their successes. It’s natural for a person to want to correct undesirable circumstances and focus closely on doing so, but there must be a healthy balance in the allocation of personal awareness. It is important to mindfully reflect on the good while striving diligently to correct the bad. A continuous general awareness of your daily successes can have a noticeably positive affect on your overall emotional happiness.
Exploit the Resources You DO Have Access To – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it.
Create Happy Endings Whenever Possible – The power of endings is quite remarkable. The end of any experience has a profound impact on a person’s overall perception of the experience as a whole. Think about reading a fairly well written, thought provoking novel. Now imagine the ending totally sucks. Even if the story was captivating up until the ending, would you still be happy recommending the novel to a friend? People always remember the ending. If the ending is happy, the experience creates happiness. Always tie loose ends, leave things on a good note, and create happy endings in your life whenever possible.
Use Personal Strengths to Get Things Done – Everyone possesses unique personal strengths. We all have different talents and skill sets. Emotional happiness comes naturally to those who use their strengths to get things done. The state of completion always creates a sense of achievement. If this achievement is based exclusively on your own personal ability to get the job done, the physiological rewards are priceless.
Savor the Natural Joy of Simple Pleasures – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love. Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.
幸福的人都有着相同的习惯。我认识的最幸福的一个人就有着7种地球人都知道的习惯。如果你想让自己更幸福些，不妨在日常生活中培养起这些习惯来。
1.成为你信仰中的一部分。这个信仰可以是任何事情。你可以是在议会中扮演重要角色，可以在宗教信仰中寻找情感上的避难所，可以加入那些符合你信仰的社会团体，也可以在你的事业中寻找激情。不管哪一种方式，目的都是一样的，那就是让你投入于自己的信仰，这种投入会给你的生活带来幸福。
2.陪伴家人和朋友。幸福的生活是一种与家人和朋友分享的生活。个人关系越强的人会感觉越幸福。
3.想想自己好的一面。不少人会把过多的注意力放在自己不好的一面，而忽略自己积极的一面。人们会很自然地想要摆脱不好的状况，并会专注于此，但是，人们还必须适当地自我嘉奖。
在努力改正缺点的同时，想想自己好的一面，这是相当重要的。不断提醒自己生活的点点滴滴的成功时，这对你提高幸福感有着显著的效果。
4.好好利用你的优势去创造幸福。一般人看到那些残疾人表现得无比幸福的时候都会觉得很震惊——为什么这些身体残疾的人还能感觉那么幸福？原因就在于他们很好地发挥自己所有的优势去创造幸福。史提芬伍德是个盲人，于是他利用自己优越的听觉，在音乐世界里寻找激情，25项格莱美奖证明了他的实力。
5.尽可能地实现一个完美的结局。结局的力量是非常巨大的。任何一种经历的结局都会对一个人产生深远的影响，这种影响体现在一个人对这一经历的总体认知上。就想象一下看小说吧，假如过程很精彩，但结局却写得非常糟糕，那你还会把这部小说介绍给朋友吗？人们往往会牢记一件事情的结局，如果结局完美，那过程也就完美。把细枝末节的事情处理好，尽可能地创造一个完美的结局吧！
6.靠自己的能力去完成任务。每个人都拥有自己独特的能力。我们都拥有不同的天赋和技能。如果一个人靠自己的能力去完成一件事情，那他会很自然地感觉到幸福的降临。完成一件事情往往能给你带来成就感。如果是凭借你自己独有的能力去完成的话，那在情感上，对你来说将是无价的。
7.体会最简单、最自然的乐趣。我以前已经说过，在这里我再次重申，生活中最幸福的事情就是自由。自由来自于简单的乐趣，随时随地都会出现在你面前。自由掌握在大自然手中，被有心人所俘虏。事实上，自由就是花点时间在周围的事物上——夕阳西下，湖光潋滟，你和爱人十指紧扣欣赏着这一切。经常好好感受这样的时光，那预想不到的幸福自然也就填满你的生活。
