Every one of us wants to belong to a friend or group of friends to express some things that we cannot share to our family. I am sure we all pass to that stage that we are unable to share to our mom and dad other secrets of adolescent that we can easily share with our buddies because we know or we thought they can understand better than our parents. During high school we had better friends that college time. And during the first work we met some new friends as well but there are those friends who stick with us through the years. How to meet new and good friends, establish relationships and keep them for life? Here’s some facts.

    a.) When meeting strangers don’t be an open book right away. Don’t be aloof or a snob, get his/her name and other stuff about the person. One thing that is so discouraging for a prospect friend is someone who opens up right away. It is so awkward for the other person, while there are some who can take the accuracy. But it is better to give just enough information.

    b.) Don’t forget to smile – smiling makes you look approachable, even if you are not attractive at all. A smile can soften your aura and making you look kind.

    c.) Don’t tag him/her along like a dog making him/her look like your servant – you shouldn’t force him/her to do anything she/he doesn’t like. Because if she does that to you, the feelings are never good –it’s like you’re being taken advantaged of or exploited.

    d.) Don’t go with a person that is totally opposite to you – choose a friend with similar hobbies, wants and other aspects of life and make sure they are good influence. If you choose your friends, you are sure you get good friends than just random friends.

    e.) Do not bend over just to satisfy a friend. If she/he makes you do things you do not like, say NO so she/will never learn to abuse you.

    f.) Treat her special – if it’s birthday, give a simple present, a hug or anything that would make her feel good about herself. You shouldn’t take a friend for granted. Remember the Confucius saying : Do unto others what you want others do unto you and vice versa.

    g.) Mean your sorry – if you have some mistakes or you missed dinners or hangouts say sorry and mean it. Do not say sorry and then do it again and again.

    h.) Be a good friend as well – If you know what she do is wrong don’t tolerate say something even it will make her go away from you. If she goes away because you said something she’s not a true friend. A true friend is someone that is a good listener and always celebrates on the betterment of the other.

    i.) Don’t be too curious and do foolish things – say another peer talked about drugs and you already know it’s wrong, don’t try to mess with it coz you cannot only destroy your friendship but your life.

    j.) Be there when they need you - specially in emotional part, love life or family life, friends need help and if we should be there to listen and not direct them. Sometimes problematic people just needs someone to talk to and not someone to command what to do.

    h.) Don't demmand, be independent.

    Having great friends that will stick in years is really great but remember to know the world “let go” because change is the only permanent in the world.

    每个人都需要一个或一群朋友来宣泄不能和家人分享的东西。我肯定我们都在青春期的时候都有一些不能和父母名言的秘密，这些却可以和弟兄们共享，因为我们知道或自认为他们比父母更容易理解我们。高中时的密友比大学时候的要好，在第一份工作的时候也会交到一些朋友，但总有一些朋友能够伴随良久。如何找到新的好朋友，建立一生的友情呢？请参照一下事实。

   a.)  对于刚认识的模式人，不要急着坦开自己。不要显得孤僻或势利，主动问他或她的名字和其他的信息。交朋友一开始就坦白自己是件很令人气馁的。会让别人感到尴尬。虽然有人真的可以这样结交，一开始的时候还是给出恰当足够的信息就够了

   b.)  要保持微笑。微笑会使人觉得你易于接近，即使你不吸引人也一样。一个善意的微笑会让你气质雍容善良。

   c.)  别像小狗一样的紧贴着他或她，这会让人觉得他/她是你的佣人。你不应该强迫别人为你做他们不愿意做的事情。因为那如果他们也那么做的话，你会感觉很糟。就像你被占了便宜或被剥削一样。

    d.) 不要试图和性情完全和自己相反的人交朋友，要寻找和自己意气相投的人，并且能给自己好的影响。如果你要挑选自己朋友，那就要确定自己选的而不是随即碰到的朋友。

    e.) 不要委屈自己去满足朋友。如果他/她要你做你不喜欢的事情，对他说不。这样他们就不会滥用友情了。

    f.) 要好好对待她，如果是生日，就送一个简单的礼物，一个拥抱，任何能让她感觉良好的东西。友情不是理所当然的事情。孔夫子有云：己所不欲，勿施于人。

    g.)真诚的表达自己的歉意。如果你翻脸错误或者缺席饭局或玩局，那就得真诚的道歉。不要一边道歉一边屡教不改。

   h.)做一个真挚的朋友。如果你知道她做的不对，那你就不能迁就，即使她会离你而去也要把事实告诉她。如果她走开了，说明她不是一位真挚的朋友。一个挚友会是一个倾听者，她总是为朋友的进步而高兴。

   i.) 别太好奇而做蠢事。就像一个同事谈及毒品，你心里知道那是错的，就不要乱参合。因为你毁掉的不止你们的友谊，还可能丢了小命。

   j.)他们需要你的时候，一定不要推辞。特别是感情方面，爱情或亲情。这个时候朋友需要帮助，我们应该倾听他们的心声而不是指导他们。有时候，深陷泥潭的人们只是需要一个倾听者，而不是一个指挥官。

   h.)不要索取，要独立。

    能够拥有历久弥新的友情是件好事情，但还是要记住该“放手”时就“放手”，天下万事，无物不变，惟变不变。